It’s a wonderful feeling when we finally meet that special someone in our lives and decide to commit to them for eternity. It makes us feel safe and confident to fall in love. However, it comes with quite a shock when that feeling eventually fades away. “Once we have made the decision that we have found the person we want to be with and commit to, the work begins. A big part of that work is making many other choices,” according to Kurt Smith, Psy.D., LMFT, LPCC, AFC. When there’s a realization that we no longer want to be in a relationship, and the idea of being with our spouses for a lifetime freaks us out, there’s got to be a serious problem.